Saturday, December 31, 2016

Top 3 Signs of Emotional Maturity

Emotional maturity is something that is often overlooked in looking for a partner. Sometimes, it is not even a priority because it is taken for granted. It is a common notion that when you are attracted to someone, everything else will fall into place.

If you are into short-term relationships, then emotional maturity does not really matter. if you are “just dating” and meeting up for a “good time” or dating several others, then emotional maturity is not much of a requirement.

But if you are in it for the long haul, emotional maturity should influence your decision in choosing to stay in a relationship. This is also a determining factor in sustaining a long-term relationship.

During the start of the relationship, when everything is wonderful and colorful, the level of emotional maturity is not that obvious yet. When the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship ends, that is when you see really see each other – the good and the bad. Here are some signs that your partner is emotionally mature.

Dealing with emotions

Emotionally mature people are able to keep their emotions in check before they act out. They are also responsible for their action and whatever else they say or do. Emotionally mature people are also able to deal with the emotions of others.

Those who are emotionally immature get caught up with their feelings by being dramatic. They distract themselves from the problem and at times even blame others for their problems and disappointments.


People who are emotionally mature are able to balance being independent and being dependent.

Needing someone all the time is a sign of emotional immaturity. There is a time when you have to learn to be independent for your own personal growth and you do not need someone to be complete.

There are times that you can do things as a couple while there are times that you need some time for yourself.


An emotionally mature individual is someone who exudes self-confidence and optimism.

An emotionally immature person is someone who always seeks attention and constant gratification from his or her partner.

How to become emotionally mature

It is not too late. If you feel that you have yet to grow emotionally, or know someone who is still emotionally immature, here are some helpful things to do:

1. Start thinking about others and give something back to society. Do things for other people.

2. Expand your network of friends. Find people who bring out the best in you.

3. Remain honest with yourself. Know yourself and who you are.

4. Cooperate with others instead of trying to outsmart everyone all the time. It does not have to be your way all the time.

Friday, December 30, 2016

Top 4 Reasons Why Couples Should be Friends First

You may wonder if being friends first is a good thing to start with as the foundation of any lasting relationship. There are a lot who believe that a man and a woman can be friends – as in real friends. However, it has been found out that some of these women who are friends with guys have a secret crush on them actually! Interesting!

Not all friendships may turn move into being a relationship but it can be a very good connection to start with being friends first before jumping into a romantic relationship. Here are some good reasons why couples should be friends first.

1. Jumping too quickly in a relationship and getting into bed without knowing each other on a deeper level is only good for a short period of time. But if you move too fast in a relationship, the chances of being committed may not be that great.

2. Sex is not everything. When this is the main thing that makes your relationship, it will not last long. Emotional compatibility must be taken into consideration as well. Someone must be able to make you feel fulfilled not only inside the bedroom, but outside of it too. If you have a great connection in the bedroom, how much more if you can meet someone who respects and cares for you a lot.

3. When you start out as friends, you become comfortable with each other just like friends are. This makes the transition to the next level smoother and more successful because you know each other’s mannerisms and other traits. As friends you have a more solid foundation, you know what each other wants and you can decode each other’s moods. There are no expectations and pretensions when you are friends beforehand.

4. When you and your partner trust and respect each other, you are also able to tolerate each other more because you are friends before you are lovers.

We live in a time where relationships are short-term, where one-night stands are very common and where romance means jumping into bed the first chance you get. Trust plays an important role as you move from being friends to being lovers. When you have a relationship founded on mutual trust and understanding, you are in for the long haul.

The foundation of friendship can lead to a lasting relationship and it gives you something to look back to on how you were brought together. If all you have to glue you together is going to bed, then the relationship is most likely to go south.

Wednesday, December 28, 2016

Top 6 Ways to Have a Productive Work Week

“Simplicity boils down to two steps: Identify the essential. Eliminate the rest.”
― Leo Babauta

How productive can you be in a week? Do you get everything done on schedule or are you almost always cramming up during the last minute? Know the culprits that counter productivity and how you can avoid them.

Act on it

One of the ways to have a productive work week is to stop planning for so many things. It is perfectly correct to plan ahead but too much planning can make you unproductive. Remember that too much of something is not good. Being behind the planning desk can make you lose more time. If you can do something now and not put it off, then do it now.

Worthwhile meetings

If you want to have a productive work week, as yourself: “Are those meetings really necessary?” Do you need to attend them or is your presence absolutely required in those meetings? There are a lot of people who spend more time attending meetings instead of working. Try to track the time that is consumed when you attend meetings. You will be surprised at how much time you are spending.

Do not be too agreeable

Do not be the “yes” man in the office. Sometimes it is better to say “no” to a request in order to get things done. If you have a schedule to follow, saying “yes” to tasks that are outside your schedule can ruin your activities that are planned for the day.


If you are always aiming for perfection, it will take up more time for you to finish a task. By striving for perfection all the time, you are spending more time than necessary. In the end, you lose previous time which affects productivity.

Take down notes

List down the things that pop in your head. There are so many options for note-taking be it on your tablet, smartphone, or the traditional pen and paper. By listing down the things that you need to do, you can set your priorities better instead of relying on your memory. This is one of the ways to have a productive work week.

Assess your week

Before you start a new work week, examine and review the past week whether you accomplished the things that needed to be done. Celebrate your success and enjoy the weekend.

Even though you may be working on a schedule, you are still your own boss. By keeping control of your schedule and commitments and sticking to them, you can be sure that you remain productive.

Top Ways to Attract a Successful Partner

If you want to attract a successful partner into your life, you have to be the kind of partner that successful people will want to be with.

Success can make you look attractive in the love department – and you can also attract a potential partner.

If you want to attract a successful partner in life and have a lasting relationship, then you also have to be successful yourself. Nobody wants a partner who’s just sitting around and slacking all day. You will want a partner who will go places with you and achieve things in life.

Below are some qualities that make a person attractive.

1. Know what you want

You must have the drive and the ambition to strive for excellence. The most important quality in a person is his or her ambition. Get your act together, be responsible – pay your bills, be dedicated to your work, and remove too much drama in your life if you want to attract a successful partner.

Your potential partner will want a partner who is equally ambitious – in a good way. This drive to be better can improve your life. Your goals must be first. If you and your partner have dreams that you want to achieve, there is less petty quarrels between you because your time and energy is focused on reaching your goal.

2. Learn to take risks

Life is all about risking it all. There are times that you just have to let go and take the necessary risks – calculated ones. This can better yourself and it can also be an attractive quality for a potential partner.

If you do not take risks, then you will never go anywhere. You will not advance in life and in your career.

Monday, December 26, 2016

4 Useful Tricks to Help You Follow Your New Year's Resolution

Do you want to finally be able to follow your New Year's resolutions after so many years of junking them? New Year gives us a good feeling in that we can start all over again and take on a new lease on whatever we want to change. But for many or us, the resolutions from yesteryears are still the same resolutions for the new year. We tend to abandon these resolutions. 

What seems to be the problem? Apparently, self-control is one of the reasons why we cannot maintain those resolutions. What can we do to really stick to the resolutions this time around?

Psychology has 4 things that can help you finally, follow those resolutions to the T.

Form Implementation intentions 

Various studies have shown that people tend to follow and do something if they form the intention. For example, you will go to the gym when your alarm sounds.  By forming an implementation intention, you will be ready when you encounter the cue and follow through is more likely.

Focus on the abstract

Instead of physical properties of a particular thing or situation, you can divert your focus on the intangible properties. If you are tempted to eat a slice of cake, then focus on the abstract property such as the cake's healthy or not? This tends to promote more self-control.

Bundling Choices

When you bundle choices, you train yourself how to act now and on future situations. This can help you make choices that you are not going to regret. 


Self control is a limited resource. Save it until you need to use it and avoid temptations. 

It takes the right kind of planning to keep your resolution. It is a good decision and you will realize later on that it is worth it. 

Top 8 Signs of an Emotionally Mature Man

Have you ever dated or been in a relationship with a guy who seems to have everything under control only to find out that he is not the man you are expecting him to be – but a boy? Do you realize that being in a relationship with an emotionally immature guy is kinda hard?

How would you like to know that the guy you’re dating is mature enough to handle things and be a good partner? Can you spot an emotionally mature man? Do you know what an emotionally mature man looks like? Here are some helpful signs to watch for if you are dating a grown-up boy or a mature guy.

1. Emotionally mature men have no problems coming up with a decision about something. They do not stress themselves out in coming up with a decision because they know what they want.

An emotionally immature man cannot make up his mind and he keeps on stressing about their inability to decide.

2. Another sign of an emotionally mature man is being responsible and admitting that he is wrong. He does not point his fingers everytime something goes wrong.

3. One sign that you are dating a mature man is by observing his relationships. He tends to have close relationships with friends and family.

4. An emotionally mature man is not afraid to show his feelings. Though it does not meant that he just blurts out what he feels, he can explain his feelings and what he likes and does not like. A mature man can express his thoughts without being mad.

5. A mature guy is not afraid of commitment. You are able to spend quality time with him.

6. Shallow vs. Deep. When a guy has reached maturity, he has something meaningful to share with another person. He can share something about his life and has his own opinion to form. An emotionally immature man is just a surface and nothing else.

7. Having a stable job is another sign that the guy you’re dating has reached maturity.

8. An emotionally mature man has a plan with his life. He knows where he wants to be a few years from now and he plans for it in order to achieve his goals.

You deserve a lasting relationship with a guy who will treat you well. When you are involved with an immature guy and try to make it work, you might be in a lot of trouble and become immature as well – that is of course, unless you grow together as a couple and reach emotional maturity.

Sunday, December 25, 2016

I Quit! Top 8 Reasons to Quit your Job

Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life. – Confucius

Changing jobs can be a stressful decision that can make or break your career. Despite the fact that you want to stay on your job, sometimes, you just have to get out. When can you say that you need to move to another path and find a new job?

Are you often stressed when you are at work? Do you feel as if you no longer belong at the office?

Here are some ways to tell that it’s time to pack up and find a new job.

Not feeling the passion and excitement

You wake up every morning and feel forced to go to work. You no longer have the passion for your work as before and things are just monotonous and each day drags on until it’s time to go home.

Dreading work

Every morning, you dread going to work.

You don’t like your co-workers / boss

We have co-workers and bosses from hell. But when things remain the same despite trying to resolve it, maybe it’s time to leave.

Unhappy at work

Everytime you are at work, you feel stressed out, you are full of negativity, and you are simply unhappy even with the smallest of things. In addition to that, you are starting to get unhealthy due to work-related stress.


You are lagging behind and your performance is poor. Your talents are not really being put into good use. These are some more signs that you should quit your job.

More responsibilities, same pay rate

Your job description have changed, you have more work to do, but the pay rate has not increased. This could mean that your company is downsizing and is not performing well.


You do not feel like you are growing with the company and you are not learning anything new. There is no more room for improvement even though you still want one.


If you are being abused in work in whatever way, don’t think twice, get out.

Once you have decided that you are going to leave your job, plan ahead and look for other opportunities before making a graceful exit.

7 Benefits of Traveling Together as a Couple

Traveling as a couple has its upside and downside. However, it is said to make a relationship healthier and stronger. Just because you are done with the courtship and honeymoon phase does not mean that you should not experience new things together. As a matter of fact, you should because this can strengthen the bond between you and your partner. It does not have to a very expensive travel. You can choose a place not far away that you haven’t been to. Try out new activities and enjoy them together. If you want to go somewhere that is more pricey, set aside a budget for that until such time that you are ready. Traveling as a couple is highly encouraged for partners to have a more meaningful and lasting relationship.

So what are the benefits of traveling as a couple?

Getting to know each other more

The more you spend time with each other, the more you know about each other. You will understand each other’s body language and there you can even finish each other’s sentences. If you travel often as a couple, you soon develop a secret language that is second nature as you speak. There are also aspects of your partner’s personality that you do not get to see at home but comes out when you are away from home.

Make new memories together

When you travel as a couple, you build more memories together. Sweet memories that you can look back to with fondness. You can be as extreme as you want to be or simple revel in the new experience together. Sharing new situations and even weird experiences will bring you even closer.

Travel as a team

When you often travel together as a couple, there are decisions to be made as well such as places to go or dine, entertainment, budget, and many more. In time, you look out for each other, learn, and influence each other.

Someone to take care of you

When you travel as a couple, you feel safer. Even though you are in a new place, there is still that feeling of familiarity. You will also have someone to take care of you when you are not feeling well.

More savings

Traveling solo can be quite expensive as opposed to traveling with your significant other. There are things that are cheaper when you are with company such as bus rides, hotel rates, and car rentals.

More photos

You can take more photos because someone is there to take a photo of you. Better yet, you are not always solo on photos because you can take a picture and preserve the memory with your partner.

Experiences are better shared

Traveling opens up a whole new horizon ahead of you. There are experiences that are better shared with your significant other. Of course, you can write about your experience later on or tell stories about it to your friends. But having some to share that moment with you is simply priceless.

Traveling as a couple can enrich your togetherness as a couple. Travel is easier when you have company. There will also be ups and downs during your travels and you have to sort it out together to make your relationship stronger than ever.

Saturday, December 24, 2016

Top 5 Things that Guys Immediately Notice in Girls

Whenever a man looks you, he is mentally ticking off his checklist to see whether he will approach you or not.

Have you ever come across a guy whose eyes will scan past you and will turn back? Are you curious to know what made him take a second glance at you? Instant attraction is possible.

There are a few things that men notices about women instantly. By knowing these things, you can manipulate and maximize your assets.

1. Smile

Men have a way of telling whether you are sporting a genuine or fake smile. They can tell when your smile sends out vibes that you are fun to be with.

2. Hair

Guys can be drawn to lush locks because this can mean that a woman is healthy.

3. Hip-to-Waist Ratio

Men’s instincts for having a mother for his kids kick in. Men notice women who have small waists compared to their hips. This is a sign of fertility.

4. Eyes

It is said that the eyes are the windows to your soul. When you have smoky eyes and make dramatic eye contact with a guy, you just might end up attracting him more.

5. Voice

Guys are more drawn to voices with a higher pitch because it is an indication of youth and reproduction.

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Top 5 Myths on Dating and Finding Love

Being single has its own perks. Being in a relationship also has its own benefits. If you have been meaning to find a stable and long-lasting relationship, being single can be frustrating.

Relationships are not perfect. It could be that you are believing incorrect things about love and dating that can hinder your chances at finding a lasting relationship. You may need to reassess some misconceptions that you may have about dating and relationships.

Myths on  dating and finding love

1. If I am not attracted to a person, he is not relationship material.

Wrong. There are some relationships that are developed over time. Just because there is no electricity when you hold hands or stare at each other does not mean that you cannot become lovers. Give your relationship a time to grow.

2. Being in a relationship will make me happy.

This is one of the . There are certain benefits that come when you are in a healthy and mature relationship. There are also people who are perfectly happy being single. It is important that you go into a relationship because you want it and not because you just want to fit in.

3. Men and women feel differently.

Both men and women feel the same things. It is in the expression that creates a difference as dictated by society.

4. Physical attraction fades through time.

As men and women age, the hormones are fewer but the feelings are the ones that can fuel the passion.

5. Conflicts can harm a relationship

Disagreements and conflicts are common in any healthy relationship. If you know how to resolve things correctly, this can be a good opportunity for you and your partner to grow.

Tuesday, December 20, 2016

How to Better Communicate with your Girlfriend

You may have started on the right foot but through time, relationships need to be nurtured by both sides for it to last. Communication is very important. By learning to communicate better with your girlfriend, misunderstandings can be prevented.

1. Learn to listen better

Listen to what your girlfriend is saying and to what she's not saying. The nonverbal cues are sometimes more important to catch because women tend to say one thing but mean another. Try to ask questions if you need clarification. Show that you care.

2. Show that you understand 

Conflict arises when your girlfriend does not feel that you understood her. By rephrasing what she said. you are showing that you understand what she said. Sometimes, this can be helpful if you are having a hard time catching up to what your partner is telling you.

3. Be honest 

Open and honest communication is the foundation of a long lasting relationship. This means that you have to be honest and not mislead  your girlfriend.

4. Think before you speak 

Sometimes you are in a hurry to react and might say the wrong thing. Think about what you want to say and how you say it to avoid conflict in a relationship.

Thursday, December 15, 2016

Do you find it hard to communicate with your boyfriend?

Do you think that you are a good communicator? If we compare male vs females, females will definitely get the point on this one. Most women are good in communication but they have a hard time communicating with their boyfriends when the boyfriend starts to shut them out. Why does that happen?

There is a simple answer to that. Emotions. Do you notice that the closer the person is to us, the worse we treat them? A woman having a hard time talking with her boyfriend is a common occurrence.

You see siblings fight the way they do and husband and wife talk to each other they way they do because of all the emotions. You would not dare say something to other people something that you say in a fight with your sibling or spouse, would you?

The closer that we are to a person, the more we involve our emotions. If you are mad and irritated at your boss, you do not shout at him right away because you want to keep your job. But in a relationship that is run my emotions, we usually hold nothing back.

In order to resolve and prevent your guy from closing down on you, communicate with them using words. Do not use raw emotion in talking to them because this will seem like an attack to them and guys will end up distancing themselves more from you. It is hard to communicate with your boyfriend if you are going to appeal to him using raw emotions.

The solution? Since guys are a whole different species, use words to bring the message across.

For example: “<insert name or endearment here>, I am feeling sad because I feel that something has come between us. I do not want to lose you and I value our relationship so much. Can you please tell me what’s bothering you?”

Why can this method be effective? Here are the reasons:

1. There is no need for your man to read between the lines.

2. The problem is conveyed to him as-a-matter-of-factly. Give a man a clear problem and he will solve it according to the way a male brain works.

3. The way you expressed your emotions to him will make him want to be your knight in shining armor.

Ladies, it is very easy to show your emotions to your boyfriend. But this can scare them away. Hope that these simple tips can do wonders on your relationship so that it will no longer be hard to communicate with your boyfriend.

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

How a Guy Treats His Mother

How a guy treats his mother is something to watch out for. Remember that there are exceptions to the rule but you will be able to pretty much tell the kind of guy you are dating by observing his relationship with his mom.

A mother’s relationship with her son is different than that of the relationship between a mother and daughter.

What are the things that make the perfect man for you? Each woman has her own set of standards that make up an ideal man. One of the factors that affect a woman’s standards is the way a man treats his mother. This is an indicator on how a man will treat a woman when they are husband and wife. Studies have shown evidences that a man’s relationship with a woman is reflected by how a guy treats his mother.

Simple things to look for in a guy are the following:

1. Respects and honors his mother.
2. Makes sure that his mother’s needs are met.
3. Checks on his mother randomly.

Any other things that are opposite to what are indicated above must ring warning bells. It is a different case if your guy has been abused or abandoned by his mother. Also consider his relationship with other women such as friends and officemates. This can give you an insight on the kind of guy that you are dating.

The guy that you are dating may just be the one for you if you see how a guy treats his mother. The type of relationship that a man has with his mother can also be a factor that can make or break the future with a guy.

Mama’s Boy

A mama’s boy is constantly reassured by his mom that no one will be good enough for him. If you are dating this kind of guy, then boy, you have a lot to fill in like acting like his mother. Not a good idea.

Balanced Relationship

A man with a balanced relationship with his mother is supported by his mother but they are not dependent on each other unlike a mama’s boy where they appear to be joined at the hip. This type of man will be more mature and is able to talk with women, as well as engage in healthy relationships.

The Rebel

A rebel type of guy is detached from his mother and may have a lot of baggages such as an absentee or abusive mother. This can cause a relationship to fail.

A mother’s role in her son’s life is to be a able to nurture, care, and provide for him. Being too protective of her son or wanting to have a say in almost everything that pertains to his son’s life can affect your relationship a lot.

Saturday, December 10, 2016

Baby It's Cold Outside: Being Single During the Holidays

'Tis the season to be jolly.. and single!

Being single during the holidays can be quite frustrating. Relatives will be bothering you with the same questions about your love life; married family members will be telling you stories of how fulfilling it is to be a parent, and so on.

Aside from Valentine's Day, Christmas and New Year are among the times when you feel how single you are to an even greater degree.

Each holiday you spend with family and relatives is different. There comes a point when everybody is stressing over school, or sometimes the first job ever. Then by and by, you notice that everyone's life is changing - they are bringing home their partners, and later on, their kids. For someone who has been single for every holiday, save for some non-committal boyfriend, it may make you feel as though nothing in your life has changed.

Being single during the holidays can bring a complicated mix of emotions that can be sometimes hard to deal with. But remember, your life is not stagnant at all. Your life is moving forward, just maybe not the way that others or you yourself has imagined. While you had the best Euro trip earlier this year, that will not beat a relative's wedding. But that's okay.

The holidays is the time that you can make the best time for yourself.

1. Have plans

Just because you are single does not mean that you should stay at home and watch reruns of whatever shows. Reach out to friends whom you haven't seen for a while and have a dinner party or a simple get together.

2. Pamper yourself

Indulge yourself with some luxurious pampering or buy yourself those expensive clothes. Decorate your home and make it Christmasy. Who days you can't make your home look a lot like Christmas?

3. Do something for others

Volunteer your time to help others do their errands. Babysit, or bake some goodies for your friends and co-workers.

4. You are not alone 

Remember that you are not alone. You will always have your family and friends even though they have their own families.

5. Work on that New Year's resolution 

Take this time to write down what you want to accomplish for the coming year and do it.

Thursday, December 8, 2016

Being Single: Top 10 Signs that Tells You’re Not the Marrying Type

1. You are contented being alone.

You feel complete despite the fact that you are single. You are married to your job or whatever it is that eats up most of your time. Some people do better by being self-absorbed. That is not a bad thing actually.

2. You are horrified by the thought of being with a single person for the rest of your life.

You simply want to enjoy life and do not want to commit to one person. You want to meet other people and at times, feel desired by many.

3. You can’t stand the thought of sharing your place with someone.

You do not welcome other people to tell you what things to buy or how to design your place.

4. You do not want someone telling you how to manage your finances.

You are very thorough with your finances and you do not want someone to question you on how you spend your money and where it goes. You also feel that you do not want to support someone else financially.

5. You cannot envision your future with children.

Some people can see themselves having lots of kids with a partner. However for you, this idea simply is not appealing. You cannot see yourself raising your own family.

6. You refuse to be responsible for the emotions of others.

You prefer to look after your own emotions and other needs. You prefer to not have any rules or schedules.

7. You look at marriage as a prison – well, sort of.

For you, getting married will destroy your physical attractiveness. For women, having babies mean that their figure will be destroyed. As for men, they will become less desirable when they are married.

8. You prefer to make decisions on your own.

You want to make your own plans and do not require the opinion of others. Compromise is not in your vocabulary.

9. Weddings do not excite you.

You tell yourself that you are lucky not to have any of those marital problems.

10. For you being single has more perks than being tied down.

Even though you see your married friends happy and contented with their life, you still enjoy the freedom of being single because single life means freedom.

Choosing to be single is not a bad thing at all. There are people who made their choice to be single just as there are those who prefer to enjoy married life.

Wednesday, December 7, 2016

3 Simple Steps to Approach Women

Approaching women and knowing the right things to say to make her want to talk to you can be quite challenging. This gave birth to pick-up lines that work wonders to start a conversation with a woman. So how do you maintain a woman’s interest in talking with you after you have delivered a one-liner that is not even yours?

Be yourself. Guys, this is one rule that you should adhere to when you are planning to approach a lady. So this is what guys should do.


Be observant of your surroundings. The people around you, the weather, and your surroundings as a whole. Use these to approach women. Then you can use it to talk to women. There are two responses when you try to strike a conversation. One is that a more outgoing woman will have a joke as a response while the other one will stare at your and wonder what you need from her.


Share an interesting story or an opinion about. Your woman of interest will see you as someone who’s trying to strike a conversation and will not be threatened by you. You can then ask some questions.


Ask questions that will require a longer answer. Make sure that you ask questions that require elaboration, or an answer that will need more words.

While these three steps are not really the way that you approach and talk with a woman, this can be a guide for you. You can strike a conversation in a supermarket, a park, or other appropriate places.

This is challenging but you can also try this on your on to see whether it works out. Good luck!

Thursday, December 1, 2016

20 Tips on How to Keep the Romance Alive in a Relationship

Relationships are not easy. Who said it is anyway? As time goes on, the road that you have to travel are full of bumps. It is not an easy journey even with time. Similar to the analogy that even though you are on a job for a very long time, it does not follow that you are improving. Most long-term relationships endure a lot of speed bumps along the way. Many want to find out how to keep the romance alive for a very long time. Some couples will look as if they are the happiest in the world and even post those on social media sites. But when at home, we do not know what really happens because some couples will try to mask the bitter reality that there is trouble in paradise.

Anyway, what are the secrets on how to keep the romance alive even after 20 years into the relationship? The problem can sometimes lie on the fact that you are not finding ways to spice up your life as a couple. A common reason is too much work in order to pay the mortgage, or the bills, and just about any other thing that requires money.

Of course, to make a relationship last long, it is important to remain in love. That is something that totally depends on the couple. However, here are some ways that can make your relationship interesting.

1. Host a Party

Spending every second of the day with your partner can be boring sometimes. You have to grow together and mingle with other people. Making one person the center of your world can be bad for you. However, this does not mean that you have to care less or love less. Host a party for your friends and invite each other’s friends. By doing this, you are able to meet your partner’s friends, and vice versa.

2. Dine at a New Place

New restaurant in town? Try it out together. Going to the same restaurant or coffee shop can be boring in a relationship. We get it that it means a lot to you because it was there where you first met each other and fell in love. But hey, there’s no harm in trying a new place. That adds to the excitement. Then you can argue over whether the food is nice or not.

3. Even lovers need a holiday

Despite wanting to spend every minute of your day with your partner, doing so is not healthy. You need to spend some time alone and enjoy that moment of aloneness. Do not feel guilty about it. Wanting to be alone is normal. This allows freedom for both parties who are in a relationship. This does not mean that you should find a new person and cheat on your partner!

4. Random gifts

There does not need to be an occasion before you gift something to your partner. It does not have to be something expensive. Just a little something to let them know that you are thinking about them. This goes both ways. This is another way on how to keep the romance alive.

5. Visit your partner at work

Not to sound like a stalker or a jealous partner – it is healthy to a relationship and it can make a relationship lasting to. Randomly visit your partner at their work and take them out for lunch. It is a very simple gesture but it will go a long way.

6. Go on dates

Even if you are married or have been dating for quite a while, it is not an excuse to neglect romance. One key on how to keep a romance alive in long-term relationships is to go on the date and plan it. It does not have to be expensive but try to make it romantic.

7. Plan your goals together

As partners, or husband and wife, one tip on how to keep a romance alive is to ask each other about what they think about a particular decision. Set goals for both of you as well as the kids if you are planning to have some.

8. Experiment in the bedroom

Share something new with your husband or wife. You can experiment on positions or probably get those kinky toys.

9. Talk about having a child

This is a talk that should be done by every couple. Bringing another child in this world is a big responsibility. This will change your life forever.

10. Travel to a new place

Go to a new place where both of you have never been to. Discover new things and enjoy your travel time together.

11. Be involved in each other’s life

This does not mean that you have to know every move and route of your partner. Some relationships are stagnant because they are not relating to each other.

12. Talk about your arguments

It is perfectly normal to have a fight with your partner. The key on how to keep the romance alive in a long-term relationship is to be able to resolve your conflict before you go to bed. This is a challenge among couples because some would keep silent and wait until it goes away.

13. Show and tell

Showing and telling your partner how much you care for him or her can help a lot in a relationship. Both men and women need assurance that they are still loved and cared for. This is a very simple act that can rekindle your romance. Do not be afraid to show your partner how you feel.

14. Say thank you

Thank you is just two words that can be very powerful. Be thankful even for the littlest of things that your partner does for you – whether it’s picking you up, doing your laundry, or preparing a cup of coffee.

15. Listen

Communication is a two-way street. When one talks, the other should listen. Talking at the same time will not resolve anything.

16. Mind your hygiene

Keep yourself well-groomed just like before you started your relationship. Make an effort to look and smell good for your partner.

17. Avoid being clingy

Being clingy can be solved by reassuring the partner that there is no monkey business going on.

18. Accept each other

One important secret on how to keep the romance alive is to be able to wholeheartedly accept the other half for who he or she is. Do not try to change your partner or expect him or her to change for you.

19. Trust each other

Do not go snooping around their emails and text messages. That is just not right. If you are suspecting that something is amiss, talk it out.

20. Do not cheat

Cheating is a major cause of broken families and relationship.

These tips on how to keep the romance alive in a relationship even when you are together for such as long time are simple guides that you can follow to have a healthy and long-lasting relationship.