Emotional maturity is something that is often overlooked in looking for a partner. Sometimes, it is not even a priority because it is taken for granted. It is a common notion that when you are attracted to someone, everything else will fall into place.
If you are into short-term relationships, then emotional maturity does not really matter. if you are “just dating” and meeting up for a “good time” or dating several others, then emotional maturity is not much of a requirement.
But if you are in it for the long haul, emotional maturity should influence your decision in choosing to stay in a relationship. This is also a determining factor in sustaining a long-term relationship.
During the start of the relationship, when everything is wonderful and colorful, the level of emotional maturity is not that obvious yet. When the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship ends, that is when you see really see each other – the good and the bad. Here are some signs that your partner is emotionally mature.
Dealing with emotions
Emotionally mature people are able to keep their emotions in check before they act out. They are also responsible for their action and whatever else they say or do. Emotionally mature people are also able to deal with the emotions of others.
Those who are emotionally immature get caught up with their feelings by being dramatic. They distract themselves from the problem and at times even blame others for their problems and disappointments.
People who are emotionally mature are able to balance being independent and being dependent.
Needing someone all the time is a sign of emotional immaturity. There is a time when you have to learn to be independent for your own personal growth and you do not need someone to be complete.
There are times that you can do things as a couple while there are times that you need some time for yourself.
An emotionally mature individual is someone who exudes self-confidence and optimism.
An emotionally immature person is someone who always seeks attention and constant gratification from his or her partner.
How to become emotionally mature
It is not too late. If you feel that you have yet to grow emotionally, or know someone who is still emotionally immature, here are some helpful things to do:
1. Start thinking about others and give something back to society. Do things for other people.
2. Expand your network of friends. Find people who bring out the best in you.
3. Remain honest with yourself. Know yourself and who you are.
4. Cooperate with others instead of trying to outsmart everyone all the time. It does not have to be your way all the time.